About Power Struggles

People who bully and like to stir up conflict come in all shapes and sizes. They can be mean and ugly or powerful and attractive. Some are even nice and docile and undermine people in a completely stealth way. They can also be a boss, sibling, in-law, friend, loved one, colleague, neighbor, parent, teacher, student, and even your child.

The thing to know about bullies and conflict creators is that most of the time they are insecure and feed off other people's weaknesses to feel better and more powerful. Like a parasite, bullies literally suck the power out of you, leaving you feeling weak and doing anything they request.

On top of that, you may find yourself trying to get along with the bully and even trying to understand them. You could even find yourself thinking about them a lot and feeling like they have something you want. It's a little crazymaking, but don't be fooled. It's not them or their power you like - it's the power they took from you that you want back. You want that little piece of yourself back...and therein lies the vicious cycle of the power struggle.